I think one reason people don’t tell the truth about what’s so for them, is because of the things they’ve heard people say behind the backs of other people going through similar stuff:
They should get help.
She used to have it so together.
I feel so sad for him.
It’s such a shame.
She’s had such a hard life.
But the only people who judge another for a trip to the abyss are those who haven’t visited there themselves.
So if you’re having a hard time, please don’t feel stigmatized. And please don’t hesitate to ask for help. But—please make sure to ask the right people for help.
Find someone who’s returned from their own abyss, someone who knows how easy it is to wind up there.
Sometimes the journey to the abyss is just a few thoughts or circumstances away.
Those people know how to navigate down there. They can lend you a light so you can look around down there and find friends. Not shame.
-JLK
