When you gloss things over with yourself... when you don’t spend the proper time to understand what‘s happened to you, the mind can become very slippery.
You may find you can’t have more than a few thoughts in a row without losing your focus. They’ve already slipped by.
You may find you feel like a ball of reactions with no through-line.
I think this is because our relationship to our upsets is the same as our relationship to our thoughts, and ultimately to ourselves.
If there’s no solid connection to our experiences, how can there be a solid connection to ourselves as the experiencer?
For those who gloss over their own upsets, you may feel like you’re not entirely in your life. Just kind of floating out in orbit. Waiting for something to pull you in and ground you.
It took me quite a long time to turn toward my upsets, to take the time to understand why I was upset and to then offer myself the support and understanding I craved.
And each time I did, it felt like weight was added to my being. Not heaviness, but the kind of weight that made me begin to feel more solid and more grounded in my life, with my own perspective as my anchor.
-JLK
